Parents! You are fashioning the destinies of immortal souls!

What we want to do with our children, is not merely to control them and keep them in order–but to implant true principles deep in their hearts which shall rule their whole lives; to shape their character from within into Christlike beauty, and to make of them noble men and women, strong for battle of life. They are to be trained rather than governed. Growth of character, not merely good behavior–is the object of all home governing and teaching. Therefore the home influence is far more important than the home laws; and the parents’ lives are of more significance than their teachings. Whatever may be done in the way of governing, teaching or training–theories are not half as important as the parents’ lives. They may teach the most beautiful things–but if the child does not see these things modeled in the life of the parent–he will not consider them important enough to be adopted in his own life.

J. R. Miller, “Home-Making” 1882

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Puritan Richard Baxter on the Family

My friend Kent sent me this wonderful quote on the family:

“We must have a special eye upon families, to see that they are well ordered. The welfare and glory of both the Church and the State, depend much on family government and duty. If we suffer the neglect of this, we shall undo all. Therefore, if you desire. reformation., do all you can to promote family religion.”

Richard Baxter

 

In The Reformed Pastor Known as the chief Puritan Schoolmaster, Richard Baxter was the Puritan evangelist of Kidderminster in the English midlands during the 1600’s. There was an amazing transformation of that town under his ministry. Under Baxter’s oversight, family catechizing, family worship, public praise worship patterns, church discipline, preaching, devotional reading, regular pastoral counseling, and small-group ministry were all emphasized. Reformation was Baxter’s name for it. His meaning becomes clear when he writes: ‘If God would but reform the clergy, the people of England would soon be reformed.’